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Embodying Equanimity: Response and Reaction Behavior
Good news alert: It’s not your job to respond to everything and everybody.
Do your reactions (or behavior) towards outside stimuli get the best of you at times or all the time?
How free and empowered are you, energetically, spiritually, and vibrationally, when responding to circumstances, other people’s energy, challenges, and those pop-up ‘triggering’ life moments?
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Discussion Chapters
Part 1: Opening
Part 2: What To Know
Part 3: What It Takes
Part 4: Solutions
Part 5: Restorative Practices
Part 6: Embodiment Checklist
Part 7: Suggestions
Part 8: Q&A
Part 9: Closing
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About
Highly sensitive people and empaths can become highly reactive to life and energy and often unknowingly or unintentionally over-respond to life and experiences, including other people, and other people's stuff. Other people’s energy, behavior, feelings, projections, short-comings, choices, moods, and updates can become a trigger that feels personal.
Challenging life circumstances can become overwhelming and even a major distraction to highly sensitive and highly reactive people while on the path to peace, success, healing, growth, transformation, and higher manifestation. The feeling of being stuck in dense energy and triggered emotions is real to HS and HR people.
This is an area I spent years trapped in, but praise be, I did the inner and outer work to overcome and evolve from this exhausting timeline and way of living.
Why is life, in general (or the people around me) so triggering and distracting, you might wonder at times? A short answer is, it’s due to conscious and subconscious programming.
We live in times that encourage and entice us to react to just about everything and everyone. This type of culture only enforces overstimulation, projection energy, and mental stress. Reacting to less is not about being dismissive; it’s how we take our mental wellness (and power) back.
Constantly feeling the need to respond, react, snapback, or explain yourself to people, as well as take things personally, can each be primary reasons you feel exhausted, burned out, irritated, and overstimulated. Your responses are energy outputs, so it’s best to use them wisely. Equanimity: is how you take your power and energy back.
Centering yourself in peace, composure, energetic sovereignty, and higher vibrations, no matter who or what you are exposed to, or go through, is possible. I’ll share how I, a highly sensitive and empathic person, and a recovering highly reactive person, cracked this major code in my personal life. Cracking this code changed the game: on all levels!! *Happy and relieved exhale*
These particular areas of self-development and embodiment work to free you, raise your vibration, and increase your magnetism, and it’s healing too; it’s a subconscious mind detox and upgrades. Hello, new higher timeline and higher potential self!!
Class Notes
What To Know
Why embodying equanimity in regards to reactions and responses matters:
The inability to control yourself and to self-regulate when you are triggered can end up doing more damage.
How you automatically react to life and experiences through programming can cause more personal stress and disappoint you even more.
How you respond to stress can either support your well-being or jeopardize it, causing pain and illness.
Ask yourself, "What program is running right now in my thoughts and my embodiment?"
There are specific character traits, behavior, and timelines that cannot go with us any further; they are causing stagnation.
Once we outgrow old timeline behavior and embodiment and cultivate higher ones, new higher opportunities manifest as a result.
Everything is not worth the stress you spend on it. Stress is expensive; it costs too much; use it wisely.
Set healthy boundaries for who and what is allowed to affect you on all levels.
Not everyone, or everything, deserves your mental focus or even your stress.
Other people should not be walking on eggshells around you.
Temper and mood management is also self-care.
Deeper chambers of vibrational embodiment mean training yourself through self-regulation and mental self-discipline to no longer be reactionary or give in to automatic responses. You live your power, and you guide it instead.
Healthy emotional control is possible.
Equanimity raises your value, allure, attraction, magnetism, sense of well-being, and self-worth.
Be flexible. Some of our frustration is because we’re trying to remain the same and not change or elevate when it’s time to grow and expand. There's a saying, "Bend of you will break." Be flexible at all times, like a palm tree.
People having different perspectives than you is okay; it doesn't make them wrong or you right; it's just different. Don't allow a difference in opinion to trigger you into low-vibrational reactivity.
Who are the people who bring out the best in you and/or sharpen you or require you to elevate?
Who are the people who provoke or promote low vibrations in you?
Reactions are biofeedback
Sometimes it's not your reaction that's wrong; it's the delivery you use. Think of the term, "It's not what you say; it's how you say it."
There may be validity and truth to your reaction, but it's all about how you respond that makes the difference.
Reacting to less is a whole spiritual path and practice; equanimity is its name.
You can learn to control your stress response; there is hope!!
There are powerful tools to help you change and control your body's reactions by changing your thoughts, emotions, or behavior.
What it Takes
Observation of Self
Notice 'triggers' in your reactivity, thoughts, and behavior.
Notice improvements in your reactivity, thoughts, and behavior.
It takes learning to recognize the external and internal signals. Eventually, you learn to recognize and use internal cues to navigate towards self-regulation, equanimity, and ultimately, high vibrational embodiment.
Look at personal areas that need higher development and self-improvement; those are your paths to self-mastery.
Look at any fears; they are also your paths to self-mastery.
Realize that new higher timelines come with higher embodiment and changed behavior.
It is not your job to react and respond to everything or everyone.
Set up an honor code you live by.
Have a response integrity code you live by,
"Don't take things personally." – The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz
Solutions
Empower the mind/body/vibration/nervous system connection
Don't suppress your emotions; transmute them.
Practice equanimity on a consistent basis.
High vibrational embodiment is a powerful tool for energy protection, change, transformation, and healing.
Affable (warm, kind, friendly, balanced) energy is a powerful vibration to emit and from which to manifest your desires.
Self-regulation techniques help us recover, restore, and preserve our power.
Focus on changed behavior. Apologies are incomplete without changed behavior.
Transmute of lower vibrational energy.
Spend time in solitude to decompress and regain your balance, strength, and composure.
Vibrational awareness is vital to staying embodied in high vibrations and equanimity or returning to them, should you lose your way.
Journey in grace.
Biohack your neurology. Allow the rush of emotions from your neurotransmitters, adrenaline or cortisol (fight or flight and stress response), to pass and subside before responding. Make time and space for relief, and calm will set in. A calm mind is a powerful mind. A stressed mind cannot think as rationally or creatively as a calm one. A calm mind is a powerful response.
Practice relaxation techniques. Do things that take you out of 'fight or flight' and stress response and into serenity, restoration, and empowerment.
Switch up modes when you notice the mode you're in is not serving you or the situation.
Integrating compassion, empathy, and healthy boundaries can change the game.
Restorative Empowermet Practices
How To Reset and Tune-Up
Come Home To Yourself: (Suggestion: A Journey Home Meditation)
This is the practice of sacredly and safely returning home after a long journey. Home is an inner sanctuary where you settle down and take care of your energy field and nervous system. When we come home to ourselves, we bring our mind, body, heart, and subconscious back into alignment and coherence.
No matter what is happening around us, home within is a place of solace, sovereignty, and peace. It is equanimity.
'Home' is a place of harmony and energetic well-being, which is our true home.
No one can take this place away from us. It warmly welcomes us and leaves a porch light on for us and a candle burning.
No matter what you experience, this inner home is untouchable and undestroyable by the outer world; it's always safe and sacred.
One of the greatest distractions of this dimension and realm is to make you think your inner home does not exist and that your home is in material things, people, outcomes, or circumstances outside of yourself. Through practicing mindfulness, we can come home to ourselves at any time. And in this aspect, you become the sacred path.
So be the compassionate caretaker of you with self-compassion and love and tenderness.
Say to yourself: "A lot is going on. You are experiencing many things; of course, you need extra TLC."
SELF-REGULATION
Self-regulating is about finding your point of personal balance and equilibrium. It's a set point where you thrive from, in the midst of whatever. It's finding your pace. Reaching this set point helps with impulse control, outbursts, and overreacting in situations.
It helps us to become more flexible versus overly fragile, rigid, or brittle.
It's how we calm down the amygdala and our internal stress responses.
Should we lose our way or feel we are getting close to losing control of ourselves, self-regulation is about making the proper adjustments to get back to our balance and higher vibrational state of being; it's adjusting the frequency and inner thermostat for the right vibration, temperament, and embodiment to come forth.
Self-regulation helps us to better process information coming in from our senses and from programs running in our subconscious mind.
Did you have proper models of self-regulation growing up? Did your adults display self-regulation? Did your close peers? Do you have models of it now? If not, find a self-regulation role model. If no one is there in real life, call them forth through manifestation. Make space for them and, if possible, spend less time around people who do not self-regulate themselves. Hello, energetic boundaries!!
Research has shown that the ability to self-regulate is associated with higher future success.
Learning to self-regulate takes time. Pace yourself. Start where you can. Focus on making small daily steps towards self-regulation. From this practice of pacing yourself each day, you will eventually expand the practice into more of your life and your daily being, including living your power more and more in your emotions, responses, and reactions.
The practices coming up soon will help you to soon will help you to self-regulate.
SHIFT TO FLEXIBILITY AND EQUANIMITY
Energy Cleansing is also getting in touch with your flexibility.
While you may be drifting off in stress and fear, or are or busy and overstimulated, emotionally heavy, or discouraged, you can also be detached from any lower subconscious programs, sovereign and balanced, and embodying equanimity. This higher and transcendent state requires shifting to a higher level of awareness, consciousness, and embodiment.
Instead of reacting to our current situations, circumstances, triggers, or environments, we pause to self-regulate by waiting for our brain chemicals to settle down before going any further with our actions, lives, and responses. This practice is how we outgrow the program and reset the energy. We can move away from: taking things personally, victimization, judgment, competition, rudeness, strife, slander, apathy, mistreating others or ourselves, and the need to gossip or down-talk others or ourselves through equanimity practice.
When we truly take care, we care less to create harm or stress within us and around us.
Embodiment Checklist
Awareness: What am I embodying? Am I moving in awareness and inner-standing of my being?
Body Awareness: What is my posture? What is my biofeedback signaling?
Mind: Am I in my equanimity?
Spirit: Am I liberated at this moment?
Environment: Am I in the right place at the right time? Am I holding safe and sacred space where I am?
Social: Am I holding compassion, loving-kindness, and non-judgmental energy? Am I creating and sustaining healthy boundaries?
Signaling: Am I sending out mixed signals or consistent signals?
Power: Am I living my power high vibrationally or low vibrationally?
Vibration: Am I in my home frequency? How can I vibrate higher?
Supportive Quote
“Reacting to less, is a whole spiritual path and practice; equanimity is its name.”
Affirmations
I have arrived; I am home.
I bring myself back into higher alignment.
I am flexible, and I shift as necessary.
Suggestions
Biofeedback Therapy:
Through neurofeedback, you learn to pay attention to brainwave activity and ultimately control it.
"Unlike many other approaches to health care, biofeedback puts you in charge. It requires you to learn from the signals your body sends and make changes accordingly. It even involves practice at home. And after you finish your biofeedback sessions, you need to use what you learned regularly. You will use it, of course, to affect the condition. Daily practice, even when your symptoms are responding to treatment, reinforces your skills....Brainwave research has shown that anxiety disorders can be related to abnormally high levels of Beta brainwaves. This frequency can lead to worry, anger, frustration, and ultimately, panic attacks. Neurofeedback training balances these brainwaves and leads to significantly reduced symptoms or sometimes complete elimination of anxiety or feelings of panic.”
– Source
Areas of focus are: Brainwaves, breathing, heart rate regulation, muscle contraction, and tension release, and temperature warming.
"Once anxiety becomes familiar to you, it is difficult to make conscious change, as we are creatures of habit. The good news is that this condition is highly responsive to neurofeedback training. By training the brain to regulate itself better, it also functions better under life's challenges. Once the brain has been trained to work in a healthier, more efficient manner, it is no longer as vulnerable to the downward spiral of anxiety and stress. Neurofeedback produces long-term improvements in your neural pathways, allowing you to live a life free of anxiety."
"Many health professionals use both hypnosis and biofeedback, often together. In fact, it is impossible to teach biofeedback without also teaching a type of self-hypnosis exercise, such as imagery relaxation, progressive relaxation, or imagery change. One benefit from using the combination of hypnotherapy and biofeedback is that the participant recognizes quickly that changing thinking changes physiologic responses. This encourages mental practice toward the goal of making a desired physiologic change permanent."
– Source
Apollo Neuro: Touch therapy device. Apollo Neuro strengthens and rebalances your autonomic nervous system, your heart rate variability (HRV) improves – which means you're building your resilience to stress. So you spend less time in fight-or-flight mode and get more time to rest and digest. Over time, your body learns to recover from stress more quickly, so you can relax, sleep better, and find deep, meaningful focus – anytime and anywhere. Like a workout for your nervous system, consistency is key. The more you use it, the better it works. Created by neuroscientists. Source: Apollo Neuro
Supportive Reads, Tools & Mentions
Vibrate Higher Daily: Live Your Power, by Lalah Delia
The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, by Joseph Murphy
Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Biofeedback, Mayo Clinic
