Self-Dates: Taking Time for Yourself
A visual meditation and Virtual outing for You
Journey with me as I go out on a self-date :) I do this as a lovely practice often. In this vlog, which doubles as a visual meditation and virtual outing, I spend nourishing alone and explorative time at The Getty Museum in sunny Los Angeles.
Taking time for ourselves is essential; it’s how we continually learn and evolve ourselves. Taking time for ourselves is a great way to cultivate our inner lives, inner peace, and greater self-awareness/worth. It’s how we take our power back. Solitude is sacred.
Love you so much, VHD Community!! Relax, rest, and enjoy!!
“Sometimes, you have to go be alone to come back and be better. Solitude is sacred.”
Additional Thoughts
Contemplation
There are many reasons and times when being alone with yourself is cathartic, essential, necessary, and cleansing. Here are some examples:
To process emotions, you're experiencing
To process a process, you’re going through
To discharge heavy energy/s
To release emotional stress
To release what isn't yours vibrationally
To clear your mind
To get back in your own energy
To seek and gain clarity
To listen to your inner voice
To connect to your higher power
To learn and explore something new
To treat yourself
Refresh and reset your spirit, soul, mind, and vibrational field
Where are at least three places you can take yourself out on a self-date this season?
IMPLEMENTATION
Things To Do Solo:
1. Volunteer time: go alone and spend a day away from your life and impact someone else's. What causes are you passionate about? Where/how can you spread your gifts and share your energy?
Volunteering is also a great way to learn new skills. A new craft in particular for me (although I wasn't alone) was learning to build a picket fence while volunteering with Habitat for Humanity. A whole picket fence ya'll! What stood out to me was the process of building a fence felt like a meditation. It was the most relaxing, deep physical labor ever!! Who knew!?
2. Mother Nature: Let Mother Nature be your guide and companion. Nature is one of the most powerful, potent, and effective conduits available to us. Time spent in nature is soul and energy medicine, it's cleansing, and most of the time, it's free, unless you're at a National Park or State Beach, where there's a small fee to support and enter. (Support your local state and national parks!!) These fees are contributions. They help with the upkeep of preserving these local and national natural spaces and treasures.
Go out and explore nature. Happy adventures!! Don't litter.
3. Go to a sacred site or space: Spending time in sacred spaces alone is so freeing. Without the presence of someone else, you can allow your spirit and heart to open up in profound ways that only solitude can bring forth. The good news is that The Most High and your divine guides are always with you.
Some of the other ways are:
Going to a garden
A favorite restaurant
A museum
A concert
A spa or nurturing treatment
Go check out a movie
Going hiking
Taking up a new class/ skill
Hitting the road. Take a road trip
Other forms of travel and exploration
Use discernment and wisdom wherever you go. Stay mindful of your surroundings, plan ahead, leave a note with someone, and go have fun!
INTROSPECTION
What are your intentions for taking time for yourself?
Go within. Listen. Where is your life and soul guiding you?
Can you feel and sense, with clarity, where you’re being called to expand and vibrate higher through solitude?
Are there healthy boundaries in place to support your ‘me-time’? If not, how will you set them and honor them?
What is your soul’s medicine this season? What’s nourishing you? What’s currently feeding your soul? Do more of that!! Alone!!
Where in your life are you feeling led to be alone more often?
How will you honor the process?
What are at least three places you can take yourself out on a self-date this season?
Related Quotes
“Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.”
― Toni Morrison, Beloved
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
― Louise Hay
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
― Unknown
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
― Rumi
“Find your soul’s medicine.”
